Reflect.What do you think caused the break up? What events led up to the downfall of the relationship? Ask yourself about what worked and what did not work.
Rebuild. Do not blame anyone, especially yourself. Instead, treat
yourself to some of your favorite things. Keep reminding yourself that you are worth loving, regardless of what happened. Practice self-care and begin to rebuild your self-esteem.
Reconcile. Admit your mistakes and things that you could have done
better. Remember these so you don’t repeat them. Now forgive yourself.
Repeat. This won’t be your last break up. Repeat until healed.
Things You Can Do To Get Over A Break Up:
Delete 95% of their pictures from your phone! Take down the cute photo booth pictures, the kissy photos, the drawing they did for you, the picture they gave you – put it all away into a box and hide it (until you’re ready to look again). Looking at their picture 10 times a day will not make things easier. “Out of sight, Out of mind.”
Write a letter to them about how you feel about them, the relationship, the break up, or an incident that happened between you two. Then burn it. Safely.
Get rid of all the stuff they gave you, but keep the stuff you really liked. Reminders of them make it hard to let go of what you two shared.
Make a list of all the things you liked about the relationship, and make another list of all the things you did not like in the relationship.
Treat Yo’Self! – get your hair done, get your nails done, go shopping, go on a long hike, go to the movies, buy yourself your favorite food, buy a new book/magazine/album.
Spend time alone. Date yourself. Get to know yourself. Find out who you are (again) now that you are single.