What is Love?
That’s a good question. Ask yourself, what does love mean to you? You might love your family, your pets, your friends, your stuff. But have you ever fallen in love with another person? To fall in love, is to fall face first into a deep unknown – open up your heart and offer it to another person, so that they can pick it up and drop it off, easily. But having love and falling in love are interpreted entirely differently.
Anthropologist Helen Fisher describes love as “a drive.” By that default, love is just as essential as food, water and shelter. We do not stop looking for love until we are full, so to speak. Most of us find love in others before we find love in ourselves. Some of us find love in ourselves and then share it with other people. A lot of us believe love can transcend dimensions; we believe love is the answer for everything and we believe love overcomes hate.
Ask yourself, what do you really mean when you tell your family you love them, when you tell a partner you love them or when you say you love yourself?
For the most part, no one really “knows” what love really is, but we can ascribe qualities, associate feelings and say “I love you” to those most important to us. However, love is not earned, never guaranteed, nor are you entitled to it. While love is universal, it is not always reciprocated, nor valued. This is why it is especially important to know what you want, before you go looking for love – better yet, before it finds you.